To Love Your Child in a Better Way…
Why do children always feel controlled by their parents and become rebellious?
Doesn’t every parent hope that their child will grow up to become successful and enjoy a prosperous, truly happy life?
Isn’t that precisely why parents always want their children to have the very best?
- The finest food!
- The nicest clothes!
- The most expensive toys!
- The best school!
- The most stable job!
- Marriage to the perfect person!
- … and so many other “bests”…
Yet despite parents giving their children what they consider the very best, children often become increasingly resistant and negative as they grow older. Many children feel pressured by their parents’ expectations, becoming fearful and increasingly distant as a result. This happens because parents’ wishes are often not suited to their children. Some children have a talent for painting or singing, yet their parents believe that becoming a doctor or engineer is best. Other children are naturally attuned to numbers and excel at mathematics, but their parents only want them to become civil servants.
By clearly understanding their child’s abilities and personality tendencies, parents can provide the right education and guidance for the child’s future. Children will no longer feel inferior because they cannot do something as well as their peers. Instead, they will become happier because their parents can let them develop naturally and in accordance with their abilities.
Parents therefore need to clearly understand their child’s learning abilities, thoughts, emotions, and behavioral tendencies. This enables them to adopt communication and educational approaches appropriate for the child. Parents will become both teachers and trusted companions to their children, helping them develop holistically in joy and happiness.
How Can You Truly Understand Your Child?
Today, many assessments worldwide can help identify a person’s abilities and personality, with each method offering distinct advantages. Fingerprint biometrics can help measure a person’s strengths and innate instincts. However, these factors may change considerably through study and work and are also heavily influenced by the external environment. Other assessments, such as MBTI and DISC, use a series of questions to identify personal tendencies. However, participants often answer these questions rather subjectively. The questions can also be too complex for children’s still-developing minds.
In addition to the methods above, the Uchida-Kraepelin (UK) assessment is now widely used around the world to identify psychological changes, measure abilities, and predict behavioral tendencies. The UK assessment is conducted through numerous very simple addition calculations (using numbers from 0 to 9). The UK assessment has the advantage of being easy to administer and apply on a large scale. Even children can take it, provided they know how to add numbers.
From the UK assessment results, parents can learn about:
- Changes in the child’s psychological state whether the fluctuations are significant or slight, and how frequently they occur. Parents can then adopt appropriate educational and communication methods.
- The child’s learning ability and tendency to process information. Understanding this enables parents to help their child learn in a suitable way without feeling overwhelmed by or afraid of a particular subject. A child who does everything slowly is not necessarily less capable; they may simply process information carefully and thoroughly.
- The child’s typical personality and behavior in social activities. Understanding the child’s adaptability, responsiveness, perseverance, and resilience helps parents establish a truly suitable balance between study and play.
- Identify eight signs of psychological abnormality that children may exhibit, thereby helping the child adjust their life and avoid being affected by these issues.
- Prevent psychological disorders that may affect the child in the future.
Nothing is more wonderful than parents truly understanding their children and using that understanding to create suitable plans for learning, play, and future development. Parents will then become the people their children trust most and feel comfortable sharing every thought with. As a result, children will no longer withdraw or react negatively to parental pressure.
Understand Your Child Starting Today!
There are some alarming figures that parents need to note: 87% of children experience psychological problems
In another study of 202 children:
- 8% had depression
- 7% wanted to take their own lives
- 4% had psychiatric disorders
- 4% had autism
- 5% had anxiety disorders
Only 36.6% of children developed normally.
When children with psychological problems do not receive medical support, they often turn to alcohol, beer, and stimulants to soothe themselves. This makes their conditions more severe and may eventually even cause them to pose a danger to society. Moreover, treating depression and other psychological disorders is always very difficult, and outcomes rarely reach 100% effectiveness.
Rather than waiting until problems arise before seeking solutions, parents can prevent them by understanding their children’s abilities, thoughts, and psychology from an early age. By understanding and guiding their children appropriately today, parents help them find happiness and success sooner.
